I recently forayed back into the world of dating. After taking time to heal from a previous relationship that couldn't be, I met someone who had all the potential to be what I needed, and I was excited. It was new. It was fun. And, because romantic connections with me are rare, someone who matched my humor, efforts, and desires for the future was like a sign lighting up saying, "this is possible!" We felt the most right we've ever felt with another person, and yet it's come to an end. I almost said, "sadly, it's come to an end," but I'm not sad. Bummed about potential not panning out? Yes. Feeling a little guilty over my chosen words? Yes. Sad and regretful? No. I'm processing it all now, and I wanted to share what I've learned.
So far:
1.)I've learned that hope can cast an illusion around something that has all the appearance of being right, but that energy doesn't lie.
2.) I've learned to be in the moment, but to continue to observe and process what I'm being shown. Specifically, someone's actions and not their words.
3.) I've learned that I need space to gain understanding about what I'm sensing.
4.) I've learned how to put into practice the knowledge that boundaries are necessary for growth.
5.) I've learned how to put into practice the fact that I can rely on my intuition.
I'm sure I'm not done learning these things, but I'm pretty proud of myself for staying true to me, even when it was tempting to stay in an illusion. Anyway, I hope this helps anyone who needs it to think about where they might need to trust in themselves more, set up boundaries for their protection and growth, or to acts as a prod of encouragement to come out from under the guise they choose to wear.
